If you have been asked to give a wedding toast, or speak at a wedding, you'll most likely be nervous, worried, and wondering what you will talk about. This is the perfect time to join a Toastmasters Club and learn the skills to give a memorable speech or toast.
Your best options are to find a Toastmasters Club that's running a Speechcraft Course, or visit and join your nearest Toastmasters Club in plenty of time to learn the skills you need. It's a move you'll never regret!
Here's some tips to get you started.
Set the tone
Giving a wedding toast is a special moment during the wedding reception. Wedding toasts are meant to set the tone for the rest of the reception, allow the guests to learn more about the bride or groom, and to celebrate the couple's new life together. A toast is also used to wish the couple well and to remind them to remember this wonderful day always and why they decided to marry.
A toast is only part of the reception celebration, but it can be a very special time. In fact a well-prepared toast can be a memorable gift to both the bride and the groom. The best man, a friend or relative usually toasts the bride, or both bride and groom.
Secrets to a Great Wedding Toast
- Prepare what you are going to say, write it down and practice ahead of time. Find out how much time has been allowed for your toast.
- Make sure everyone has a filled glass. Traditional toasting drinks are champagne, wine, mixed drinks or even non-alcoholic punch.
- Stand and face the person/s whom you are toasting.
- Raise your glass up with your right hand.
- Use a microphone if necessary. There is nothing worse than losing the audience's attention because they can't hear what you have to say.
- Say your toast mentioning those you are toasting by name, your relationship to them and a thought about their good fortune and their future. Add witty anecdotes wherever possible but don't recite a joke or story that only means something to a few people. And don't embarrass the recipient! Use notes if necessary but keep it short and sincere.
- Wave your glass to all and cap off the toast with a hearty "To the Bride and Groom" or "Cheers!"
- Take a sip and sit down.